Monday, October 26, 2020

A wolf in sheeps clothing. My side.

This pic pretty much sums up what I see in people who say they are a man of the cloth. I am no longer a victim. 
This person portrayed himself as valuable asset to the Township where I live.  It was about two years ago when I was sexually assaulted (forcible touching) by a host, T.H. of the internet radio program The Lions Roar. People tend to trust others, especially if they portray themselves as a leader in a church. The betrayal is harder to accept when it's by someone you trust.
My Story.
 So here I am, nothing more than a mother, spouse, and a community activist. "Rev" T.H. had texted me through Facebook messenger, and asked if I would like to be a guest on his internet radio program The Lions Roar. I said yes, I love discussing community and politics. Then after 3 weeks, T.H. had asked if I would be interested in becoming his co host of The Lions Roar program. It was a once a week gig. It was recorded in a church administrative building in the Town of Babylon, so it was close to home. The format was a little off,  the host was very anti-Trump, it was interesting how our guests reacted to the host reading his newspaper clippings regarding Trump. After the program, we would congregate in the lobby area and take photo ops with our guests. That's when the drama started.  T.H. had starting feeling comfortable and resting his hands on my rear and the side of my breast while we would line up (wedding photo style). That's when the host seized the opportunity and began to touch, grab, and squeeze.  This went on for quite sometime, so you have to understand why it was hard for me to stand up for myself in the situation. 
I grew up in the Catholic church
. Our family was heavily involved in the church. Our parish priest was like part of the family. Ate at our home and other parishioners as well. Priests are what we look up to. In a way I would feel the same way for any church official, until now. The sexual inappropriate touching was escalating and I couldn't take it any longer. I had documented everything in a journal. My thoughts, good and bad. The reason for me doing this? Its kinda like therapy. Having someone to talk to, my journal. My most deepest thoughts put down on paper for only eyes only. To think to share something so intimate was unheard of. I had wanted to submit my two weeks notice, and I had requested for Rev T.H. to be removed from the program until after I leave from my notice. I was told no. I was offered my own internet program, Her-Community2, but I had a podcast and Blog with Her-Community2 already. I went with it, but I lasted two months, I was always afraid I might run into T.H. even though I was rest assured, but I left anyways, just to be safe. I was given great advice, make a police report. I really didn't think this was going to go anywhere, but it did feel good to tell another person who took me serious. Suffolk County Police Department 1st precinct was awesome. They assigned a Detective, who was very caring, and he took the report. In January,of 2019 T.H. was arrested by SCPD. He was essentially released on his own recognizance. Now for the rest of the year, it was back and forth for him to see the judge. The Assistant District Attorney contacted me regarding the case. It was going to a Jury trial! I was very nervous. It was basically my word against his. I did have other victims come forward and give their statement, which helped out, tremendously. I was prepped by the A.D.A on what to expect from her, the judge, jurors and of course the defense attorney. I did two days of testimony and I made my exit. I testified, Thursday and Friday. The jury received it on a Monday. That same day the jury came back GUILTY! I had received the news that afternoon., I cried, I mean I really cried. I also felt relief. This person cannot do this to someone without a conviction. The sentencing is in December, which I plan to be there to read my victims impact statement. I will be heard again. I made a terrible mistake. I should have talked to someone about this before, and I just didn't know who.
Me now:
I am confident, strong and I totally feel empowered. Speaking more and more about this has given me confidence. People care, People will listen, People will help you. Trust me, there is help out there. I am always available to anyone who wants to confide, ask questions or simply reach out to me and I can certainly direct you to the right source. 

I always post great info. 
Take care and do not become a victim! 

Love and Peace!

Numbers I always post:

National Trafficking Hotline: 1(800) 373-7888  7/days a week. 24 hours. They offer hotline in over 200 languages!  

RAINN - National Sexual Assault Hotline- 1-800-656-4673
National Domestic Violence Hotline- 1-800-799-SAFE

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Tuesday, October 13, 2020

American and local politics. The Good, The Bad and The Ugly.



Politics.
 These last few weeks has had the country fired up. My mother always had said, like most, you cannot discuss politics, religion and abortion. Well, I'm going to have to say she was right. People get so heated and take it so personal if you do not agree with them. Like why do I have to agree with you? I have my own brain and my own train of thought. The way I see it? I don't have the time nor the energy to try to change your mind. There's points to every side. I am more the type to agree that we disagree. Some folks are on social media and name calling each other and throwing insults. I love my choices on who I plan to vote for. I have never missed an election to cast my ballot. Above in that pic is my 5th child, Alexa. I took this shot while our family took a vacay in Washington D.C. I have been trying to raise her to be a educated and become an opinionated young lady and the importance of her to exercise her future right to vote. It wasn't so long ago that us women did not have that right. 
Yep that's me. My mother was very much into politics and activism. As you can see, she did not hesitate to dress us patriotically. So, of course this has definitely made me pass this on to my children. Now, enough about that, we have an election coming up. First the Presidential elections. 

Republican President Donald Trump VS. Democratic candidate Joseph Biden.

Honestly? I am ready to say publicly that yes, I am voting for Trump. Why? I feel Biden is too weak and will appease anyone who will listen. When he took a knee, that literally screamed weakness. How can a President look Presidential while kneeling? That totally rubbed me the wrong way. Plus his policies, what are his policies?? Whatever you want to hear. Biden has so many gaff's that he is a running punch line for dementia. Now I have comprised a list of our local elections and my support and who I think has an excellent chance in winning. I don't or ever have voted strictly by a political party. That's a foolish act. You have to do your due diligence and see who the better candidate is. Up until this year I was a registered Democrat. Yep I sure was. What made me re register? The democrats sponsored the No Cash Bail law. I felt so disgusted that I knew right then and there, it was time to jump ship. I'm totally OK with my decision. 
President
Donald Trump (R)*
He has what it takes to run this country. He's strong opinionated and is strongly supportive to the United States. 
Joseph Biden (D)*

U.S. House
District 1
Lee Zeldin (R)*
My pick to win. 
District 2
Andrew Garbarino (R)*
He is backed by Rep Peter King. That's enough for me. 
District 3
Thomas Suozzi (D)*
Yes I know he's a Democrat, but this guy has accomplished a lot for his community. 
District 4
Kathleen Rice (D)*
I know, another Democrat, but like i said before, its what they have done, she is in action.
District 11
Max Rose (D)*
A war hero. Nuff said. 
District 14
John Cummings (R)*
I like him. lol, That's enough. 

Senate
District 3
Monica Martinez (D)*
Shes Hispanic and she's a woman who does right by her community. She gets my support. 
District 4
Phil Boyle (R)*
This man is a class act. it does not matter to him what political party you are affiliated with, he is there for his constituents. I've seen this man at more events in the past than any other politician, always and I mean always there for the community. This man cares. 
I'm going to add a side note on this race, Democrat Christine Pellegrino is running against him. Why? Who knows? She was a terrible NYS assemblywoman. She had quit her teaching position and took a low paying job at the Board of Elections when no one would return her calls, so now she's looking to run against our Senator Phil Boyle. This isn't even a race, she has had maybe two supported fundraisers that I can honestly say had low turnout, I wonder why? 
District 5
James F. Gaughran (D)*
I do not know this politician, but I do see him all over social media within the community and made himself available to his constituents....huge!
District 7
Anna Kaplan (D)*
Again, a positive female role model for our community.
District 8 
John Brooks (D)*
A favorite of mine. He listens to his constituents. 
District 9
Todd Kaminsky (D)
This man must be glued to his social media account or he has someone doing it for him, because he addresses every issue on Facebook.
 
NYS Assmbly
District 1
Fred Thiele (D)*
My choice
District 2
William V. Van Helmond (L)*
Had the pleasure of having this candidate as a guest on Her-Community2 Podcast.
He has great ideas and a great sense of community. 
District 3
Joseph De Stefano (R)
A great choice
District 5
Douglas Smith (R)*
Again, my choice. 
District 10
Steve Stern (D)*
I am always hearing good things about this man, so much positive chatter. 
District 11
Kimberly Jean-Pierre (D)*
This woman has a strong following in her district. She is truly involved in her community and makes herself available to her constituents. A huge plus!

Of course there are lots more candidates, but these are my favs that I think will win the election. Good luck to them and let's pray to God that if they do win, that they are given the wisdom, heart and soul to lead our communities to great things for our children.November 3rd is coming very close, so please, do your homework, get involved! We constantly need new folks to run for seats so there can be fresh ideas and challenge old ones. Whatever your party affiliation, do it for the community you live in, for the next generation and our children. I wish all the candidates well. I'm personally looking forward to election night and celebrating the winners!

VOTE VOTE VOTE

Peace and Love to all.


Numbers I always post:

National Trafficking Hotline: 1(888) 373-7888  7/days a week. 24 hours. They offer hotline in over 200 languages! 

National Sexual Assault Hotline; 1-800-656-4673

 Tune in to Her-Community2 Podcast on:

Apple iTunes,Apple Podcast, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Podcast, Alexa, and iHeartradio 

                                                                          

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Personal and Commercial insurance
Home and building insurance
Healthcare, Medicare,Dental....
You will never overpay for life insurance!
Call them today at 855-LAKE-INS
or visit them at Lakeins.net for savings that will blow you away! 

Also:

The Long Island Women’s Firearm Club is run by Long Island women
for Long Island women. We believe women should be able to defend
themselves with fists, as well as firearms. Not only to be able to protect
themselves and their families, but to help end the stigma around women
and firearms. What makes the club different from others is that we are a
sisterhood. We support one another and network within the sisterhood to
ensure we grow together.
www.LIWFC.org

https://www.facebook.com/groups/LongIslandWomensFirearmClub


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Bail Reform and the "List"

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