Thursday, April 22, 2021


What's not to love about Long Island, New York?
 We have amazing beaches, restaurants, enriched history, and a quick drive to Manhattan. However, people are moving out of New York in huge numbers. As I had stated back a few posts, I was born and raised in Los Angeles, so when I moved to Long Island 15 years ago, I saw beauty and nice weather with all the four seasons. Some would say we live a fast paced life here, maybe, but I love that. The parks are so beautiful, my personal favorite is Belmont Lake. So many hidden gems on this Island, like the restaurants and deli's here. The best thing here is the BAGELS and oh I cannot forget the egg sandwich on a roll with butter from a deli. So, over the course of time, more and more people are moving out of Long Island, New York. Why? Its does get bitterly cold here in the winter where you just don't want to deal with that and snow. That's why most of our seniors move to Florida. The thing is, it's not just seniors anymore, it's families. I spoke to a Long Island native that moved to Florida. I asked him why? To be born and raised here, why now?

He had many reasons, extremely high taxes, expensive parks and beaches, yes we have to pay on top of the taxes. red light cameras, which they hiked from $50 to $80. The potholes, yes the potholes, I know everyone complains but we have pretty big ones and it can damage your car significantly. According to NY Department of Labor from 2017, the average salary is $57,650 that's a great salary if you happen to live out of state. Unfortunately, we now have  multigenerational style families, with more than one family living in one home is  high here, especially when the average cost of a house here is $500,000 so when you can, do the math. 
Now according to the former resident, taxes, corruption, and potholes. Maybe in that order. I think people get angry with high taxes because we have nothing to show for it, yet we still have to pay to have access to our parks and beaches. Corruption. Yes it's rampant here, it's so bad that an average every day resident are stepping up to engage and run in elections, (like me, running for Town Clerk in the Town of Babylon). I am not certain there is corruption at this level (who knows) in politics, but there certainly is with county government and up.

Those stinking potholes!
Yes, we have a lot, So far I've been lucky and not hit one, but once you do, again, it can do a lot of damage to your car. Then you have to go through the hassle of getting a new tire and whatever else got damaged. It's somewhat annoying that we pay so much in taxes, and what are we getting out of it? In politics, we need new faces, new ideas, and the common man with a plan. The politicians here just recycle to another position once their term run out. I would list, but then this would take forever to read.
We need industry.
I wasn't living here on Long Island back in the day, but from what I understood from local residents, the economy was solid. There were huge companies that employed locals with great salaries. Many companies left to operate in another state where the taxes are lower. The largest employer now is Northwell Health, it's a health care provider on Long Island. We need more industry here that can sustain us than making making minimum wage at retail shops, even that's closing little by little, which means more people out of work. I guess everyone complains about this island, but people are fed up and uproot and move to another state , such as Florida or the Carolinas. I can see that, you get more bang for your buck. Like one resident told me, somethings got to give, no one can afford anything. The need for some sort of accountability is just a fraction of what is needed from the politicians who ran our state into a hot mess. People gave up and moved. 
The way I see it.
I'm going to have to agree with the local residents who want to stay here, something has to change. Most politicians here make close if not, over 6 figures, for what? Where's the quality of life? We can get on a path to a better quality of life with planning, making incentives to attract corporations to settle here and while chain stores are closing, lets aid the small businesses to recovery who employ our locals. 
Hope, pray and get involved in your community, there's power in numbers. If the politician you voted for is still in office and everything is still the same and getting better? Time to make that vote count! Thanks for reading and supporting this blog, as always I appreciate all feedback. 
Peace and Harmony.
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Sunday, April 18, 2021

Supply and Demand. Child sex trafficking.

Supply and Demand.
 Child Sex trafficking has been in high demand for a long time. Sex trafficking is the second grossing money machine; Drug smuggling is still at number one. This is a global crisis and its sickening to even think that there's a market for this, but there is. The number one place that this occurs is The United States of America has the highest rate of sex trafficking. Now, with so many children that are being left alone at the border is a pedophiles candy shop. No parents to protect them, ugh I dread even the thought of an innocent child being mislead down the endless dark hole. Now not all is forced into sex trafficking, some are forced into labor-based exploitation. Mostly sex. The ages it effects? 10-12 years  plus, the United States has the highest number for sex trafficking victims.  
Here are the cities in the U.S. who have the highest victims of sex trafficking.
1. Houston, Texas
2. Washington D.C.
3. New York city, New York
4. Atlanta, Georgia
5. Los Angeles, California
6. Orlando, Florida
7. Miami, Florida
Scary right? 
About 10,000 children a year suffer the horrors of commercial sexual exploitation in the United States. Each victim on average are usually forced to have sex more than five times a day. Yet the buyers fuel this child sex trade are seldom held accountable. most of the perverts live in our communities and blend in with their families, jobs, and neighborhoods. Mostly a "professional" type. Because of this high demand, and the traffickers are filling that demand with supply. The demand here in the United States is a global one. There are men here traveling the globe to go to places like Thailand and other places in East Asia to purchase sex with kids. However, in fact the demand is so great, traffickers are filling that supply with our kids here.
Now according to the Department of Health and Human Services report , over 300,000 of the American youth is considered at risk for sexual exploitation. What's sickening, is that we are driving the demand with our own kids. A multitude of kids that are being sold as sex slaves to in America. These are American kids, American-born, 50 to 60 percent of them coming out of the foster care system! Bottom line, I know no one wants to even think that this exists, but truth be told, it does, in fact according to the United States Institute Against Trafficking, the United States is the number one consumer of sex worldwide. 
Pimps and traffickers manipulate children by using physical, emotional and psychological abuse to keep them trapped in a life of prostitution. Its very common for traffickers to beat, rape, or torture their victims. Some traffickers use drugs to control them.
These people are very charismatic and use charm, friendship, and promises of making great money. A woman is used to make friends with a girl and earn her trust. Then the victim goes with her, and now the victim is a commodity. Trafficking risk comes from vulnerability. There has been a spike in sex trafficking during the pandemic. According to the FBI, abusers are joining multiple social media platforms to target kids. The pandemic was giving predators more access to kids through online. 
There are organizations now helping with awareness, the victims, and their families. The most active is Child Welfare Information Gateway. They are a national organization that provides information on child sex trafficking intervention and prevention. 
There is a lot of good people out there that want to help, they outweigh the bad, this is a real life issue that needs to be addressed and more awareness is needed. I hope this isn't too shocking, for me it was. I read a book that I stumbled across on my kindle unlimited, One among us. That book changed my life, and if you read this, it will change yours too. It is non-fiction, however the circumstance are very real today.

A shout out to Geoff Rogers, co-founder of the United States Institute Against Human Trafficking.
Child Welfare Information Gateway. 

National Center for Missing and exploited Children.
National Human Trafficking Hotline
National Sexual Resource Center

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The Long Island Women’s Firearm Club is run by Long Island women
for Long Island women. We believe women should be able to defend
themselves with fists, as well as firearms. Not only to be able to protect
themselves and their families, but to help end the stigma around women
and firearms. What makes the club different from others is that we are a
sisterhood. We support one another and network within the sisterhood to
ensure we grow together.


Wednesday, April 7, 2021

Survivng all types of sexual assaults and innapropriate touchings.

The sun will still rise tomorrow

That's what my mom used to say all the time if us kids were having an issue or a problem. she's right, but going through a sexual assault or inappropriate touching, its like total violation, disbelief and you want to hide. You feel isolated because who are you going to talk to? What are you going to say? Not to mention it is totally humiliating and embarrassing. We live in a great society where we are educated in how offensive and illegal it is for this behavior. Where any type of sexual behavior is no longer acceptable, especially in the workplace. We have come a long way from the 50's and 60's and I'm going to throw in the 70's as well. We have come a long way, but it's not enough. We need stricter guidelines, awareness, and consequences. Now most corporations have compliance and diversity trainings to keep their employees in the know, and have them sign off on it, so they are aware of these acts are not only not tolerated, there's also a consequence (termination). There's a few people in today's society who have not or just do not want to up to speed. 

                                                                        Coming out. 
That's rough. You are literally putting yourself out there for criticism. Such as, how come you didn't say this? Why didn't you just get out? Why now? That's something that is hard to explain. You think you're the only one, but you're not. Predators know how to seek out there victims They come across as being genuine and smooth. My accused was supposedly a Minister, he portrayed himself to be a  minister, but he wasn't, he was an Elder. Then you're shocked and stunned when it happens and then you're embarrassed or feel shame. Those feelings will fade fast or linger. Mine lingered. Cause now you're transiting into a new mode, anger. Me? I became angry, and started the process of pressing charges. The charge? Forcible touching. At least it was something right? I was not happy with that charge, it was a small consolation that's it is a punishable offense. I also sought support with a great organization called RAINN, the people there are available 24/7. They were a great comfort and I found strength in myself that I didn't know I had! Talking to someone definitely helped me to make progress. That's how Her-Community was created. I channeled everything that I wasn't, a strong and powerful woman. I wanted to empower women who needed it and celebrate how more and more women are becoming self confident and standing strong. 

                                                                 Pressing charges...  
After I filed the charges, I was so unsure that this was going to go anywhere. Again a predator is free to do what they want to do. The person was arrested and I was granted an order of protection. I realized, yes! this is going somewhere. I found out that patience is truly a virtue and soon we had a court date. I was prepped to be absolutely honest and importantly, if I didn't remember something, simply reply, I don't remember. After 2 days of me testifying, he was found guilty. I felt so vindicated, the purest of relief felt so euphoric. Its still hasn't ended yet, he's challenging the case, so he has not been sentenced. I can wait, time is a wonderful thing. Its helps you heal, grow, and appreciate humanity. 

Never blame yourself. You are not responsible for predators. You're main responsibility is caring for yourself! As always, peace and love! Here is some helpful info

National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN) 1-800-656-4673

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for Long Island women. We believe women should be able to defend
themselves with fists, as well as firearms. Not only to be able to protect
themselves and their families, but to help end the stigma around women
and firearms. What makes the club different from others is that we are a
sisterhood. We support one another and network within the sisterhood to
ensure we grow together.

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